I love being a woman . Thank you Mr. Sillada for giving me more reasons to celebrate womanhood.
How many men have failed to understand a woman – her needs and wants – not in the context of emotional and sexual fulfillments, but on the level of intellectual stimulation that a woman of passion and reason craves and desires?
Generally, a woman can be attracted to a man because of his looks and physical appearance. However, the moment he speaks, he will either arouse her curiosity or bore her to death.
She may intermittently yawn or twirl her hair with her finger as a sign of discontent in front of a boring and insensitive person. But when a woman’s blood rushes toward her cheeks and her eyes glow with indescribable radiance – it is an obvious sign that she is at the peak of her intellectual and emotional experience.
So what does really a woman need and desire in a man, and what brings her to the fullest experience of her femininity as a woman?
A good lover does not necessarily need an Adonis' physique or material possessions to impress a woman – but wit, passion and humor – a rational mind and a sensitive heart to stimulate the recesses of her soul.
To affirm a woman's existence is not only to assuage her sensual and emotional needs and longings, but also to stimulate the intellectual resonance of her body and soul. Some women call it Intellectual Orgasm while others call it Intellectual Stimulation.
Intellectual Orgasm is to bring the woman to the heights of her femininity of being loved and adored with passion and reason enduring the passing of time and season. A man’s love to a woman must be rational; he must see through a woman’s soul her beauty, value and meaning in relation to his quest in life.
A woman is not a functional object to be used when a man needs to release his lust and passion, and put her aside when she is no longer attractive or exploitable. Every woman deserves respect whether she is a prostitute, a mentally challenged or a factory worker.
A rational man must see and recognize her precious role in conceiving and delivering humanity into the world. Because, every woman, regardless of class and status in the society, is the man’s identity of who he was, who he is and who he will be. Man exists because of a woman and she becomes a woman because of him.
Being borne out of a woman, a man could only respond to that “gift of life” by treating every woman with respect and compassion. He has to make her feel as though she is as indispensable as the air that he breathe or as the light that beckons in his solitude, because she is the completion of what he was and what he is to become. For every man, there is always a woman who laughs or cries with him in times of joy and sorrow.
The essence of a woman transcends beyond space and time and, like a seasoned wine, the older she gets the more she defines and completes the epitome of being a woman. The more she advances in her age the more she possesses an aura of beauty and elegance beyond the physical realms. She becomes the symbol of love, passion and beauty that a man must constantly esteem and desire as a lover and as a man of reason.
As a man of passion and reason, on the other hand, he must rise above the physical appearance and see through her soul the quintessential beauty of a woman. It is an eye, for instance, of seeing the beauty of a woman working in the farm with sun-baked skin, or a destitute woman carrying her child along the busy street, or a native woman planting rice in the mountain.
A rational and compassionate man adores a woman like a goddess, as ineffable and desirable as a princess by showing not only his words, but also his actions like how he talks and listens with ardor and compassion.
As a woman, like any man, she has her own conquest too and her conquest is to be constantly desired and adored rather than taken for granted like a used object when youth and physical beauty wilt away.
To sum, every woman is equal to a man; what he desires is what she equally desire in her own way as a woman, and she desires nothing but to love and to be loved by the man that she trusted and gave her entire life and existence.
