"The Woman Men Adore"

"Men by their nature WANT to take care of women. It's true! When a woman allows her man to take the lead, she is actually using his natural tendencies to please her, because the ultimate prize for a man is in making the woman of his choice happy."

"If he feels he can make her happy rather easily, he is more likely to try harder to please her. Often a woman's self-suffiency gives the impression that she does not want him to protect and cherish her."

"One way to describe this difference is the two hearts.  A woman's heart, on the inside, is very tender. It is sensitive and empathetic.  ...[But] I have seen women whose hearts were broken, but who recover in half the time it would take most men."

"A man's heart is totally different.  The inside of a man's heart is even more sensitive than a woman's.  Around his heart are walls of steel, like doors that slide open and shut, and only open for special occasions. These doors open when he is interacting with his children or the woman he loves, or perhaps in a spiritual moment."

"When those doors are open, a man is extremely vulnerable. During those vulnerable times, if someone hurts him or makes fun of him, those doors shut up very quickly.  This is why men do not like to open up much - it's just too scary.  When a man's heart is injured, he does not have the recuperative power most women do."

- by Bob Grant, in "The Woman Men Adore and Never Want to Leave"

Intellectual Orgasm & The Essence of a Woman

I love being a woman . Thank you Mr. Sillada for giving me more reasons to celebrate womanhood.

DANNY SILLADA's Intellectual Orgasm & The Essence Of A Woman

How many men have failed to understand a woman – her needs and wants – not in the context of emotional and sexual fulfillments, but on the level of intellectual stimulation that a woman of passion and reason craves and desires?

Generally, a woman can be attracted to a man because of his looks and physical appearance. However, the moment he speaks, he will either arouse her curiosity or bore her to death.

She may intermittently yawn or twirl her hair with her finger as a sign of discontent in front of a boring and insensitive person. But when a woman’s blood rushes toward her cheeks and her eyes glow with indescribable radiance – it is an obvious sign that she is at the peak of her intellectual and emotional experience.

So what does really a woman need and desire in a man, and what brings her to the fullest experience of her femininity as a woman?

A good lover does not necessarily need an Adonis' physique or material possessions to impress a woman – but wit, passion and humor – a rational mind and a sensitive heart to stimulate the recesses of her soul.

To affirm a woman's existence is not only to assuage her sensual and emotional needs and longings, but also to stimulate the intellectual resonance of her body and soul. Some women call it Intellectual Orgasm while others call it Intellectual Stimulation.

Intellectual Orgasm is to bring the woman to the heights of her femininity of being loved and adored with passion and reason enduring the passing of time and season. A man’s love to a woman must be rational; he must see through a woman’s soul her beauty, value and meaning in relation to his quest in life.

A woman is not a functional object to be used when a man needs to release his lust and passion, and put her aside when she is no longer attractive or exploitable. Every woman deserves respect whether she is a prostitute, a mentally challenged or a factory worker.

A rational man must see and recognize her precious role in conceiving and delivering humanity into the world. Because, every woman, regardless of class and status in the society, is the man’s identity of who he was, who he is and who he will be. Man exists because of a woman and she becomes a woman because of him.

Being borne out of a woman, a man could only respond to that “gift of life” by treating every woman with respect and compassion. He has to make her feel as though she is as indispensable as the air that he breathe or as the light that beckons in his solitude, because she is the completion of what he was and what he is to become. For every man, there is always a woman who laughs or cries with him in times of joy and sorrow.

The essence of a woman transcends beyond space and time and, like a seasoned wine, the older she gets the more she defines and completes the epitome of being a woman. The more she advances in her age the more she possesses an aura of beauty and elegance beyond the physical realms. She becomes the symbol of love, passion and beauty that a man must constantly esteem and desire as a lover and as a man of reason.

As a man of passion and reason, on the other hand, he must rise above the physical appearance and see through her soul the quintessential beauty of a woman. It is an eye, for instance, of seeing the beauty of a woman working in the farm with sun-baked skin, or a destitute woman carrying her child along the busy street, or a native woman planting rice in the mountain.

A rational and compassionate man adores a woman like a goddess, as ineffable and desirable as a princess by showing not only his words, but also his actions like how he talks and listens with ardor and compassion.

As a woman, like any man, she has her own conquest too and her conquest is to be constantly desired and adored rather than taken for granted like a used object when youth and physical beauty wilt away.

To sum, every woman is equal to a man; what he desires is what she equally desire in her own way as a woman, and she desires nothing but to love and to be loved by the man that she trusted and gave her entire life and existence.

Men...Women...

Women's Complaints about Men
1. They are not understanding enough.
2. They are not sensitive to feelings and needs.
3. They are not affectionate enough.
4. They tend to bypass sexual foreplay, and are quick to ejaculate thus losing their sexual interest, before the woman is satisfied.
5. They do not communicate enough. They do not express their feelings and thoughts.
6. They do not pay enough attention to their partners.
8. They do not help with order and cleanliness of the home.
9. They do not appreciate the work involved in keeping up the home or in bearing and bringing up children and do not compensate this contribution to family life.
10. They make decisions about work and life without regarding the woman's or the family's needs.
11. They create extramarital relationships.

Men's Complaints about Women
In the same groups I have found that men have the following complaints about women.
1. Women complain, criticize and nag too much.
2. They try to control and suppress men.
3. They are seldom happy.
4. They tend to withhold sex as a punishment or blackmail.
5. They do not think logically, but emotionally.
6. Their emotions are not predictable but change quickly especially due to hormones, during menstruation, pregnancy or menopause.
7. They tend to gossip.
8. They, too, create extramarital relationships.
9. They are not home enough (which for some men means - continuously)
10. They are not taking enough care of the home.

What Men Can Do to Help Their Relationship Partner's Feel Happier
Men can learn to:
1. Be more understanding and sensitive of her needs.
2. Be more affectionate, tender, affirming and loving.
3. Approach her consciously and sensuously allowing their mutual sexual energy to gradually develop.
4. To communicate more openly their thoughts, feelings and needs.
5. Spend more quality time with their children.
6. Help out with the cleanliness and order of the home.
7. Appreciate, and where necessary, financially reward their partners for work done in the home.
8. Include all the family in decision making.
9. Be monogamous.
10. Understand that her criticism is often a function of the fact that her needs are not being fulfilled.
11. Overcome the fear of being controlled and be true to themselves in each situation.
12. Understand that women perceive situations differently and respect that.
13. Understand that women are often the victims of their hormonal changes and that this is not easy.
14. Understand that women, too, need to get out of the house and engage in activities, which interest them.

What Women Can Do to Help Their Relationship Partner's Feel Happier
Women can learn to:
1. Express their needs directly without complaining or nagging.
2. Trust their partner and allow him to function freely.
3. Focus on how grateful they are to have what they have.
4. Analyze situations from an even more logical point of view, especially when they suspect hormones are affecting them. (Or avoid reacting at those times.)
5. Avoid gossiping.
6. Be monogamous.
7. Find a balance between taking care of the home and asking the others for help.
8. Feel equal - neither superior nor inferior to men.
9. Understand that men have difficulty with communicating feelings and not take this personally.
10. Realize that their partner loves them even when he cannot be affectionate or tender.
11. Guide the man with their preferences in their sexual contact.
12. Radiate feelings of equality and self-confidence without competitiveness.

Babae Talaga

Nakngtinapa! Hirap talaga maging babae. Paiba-iba ng isip. Halos lumuwa na ang mata ko sa kahahanap ng bagong template netong blog ko. Bakit kaya ganun? Hindi kaya sadyang maarte lang ako? OC? Sana makuntento na ako dito sa blogskin ko na 'to. Tragis!

9 WORDS WOMEN USE

1. 1. Fine: This is the word women use to end an argument when they are right and you need to shut up.
2. 2. Five Minutes: If she is getting dressed, this means a half an hour. Five minutes is only five minutes if you have just been given five more minutes to watch the game before helping around the house.
3. 3. Nothing: This is the calm before the storm. This means something, and you should be on your toes. Arguments that begin with nothing usually end in fine.
4. 4. Go Ahead: This is a dare, not permission. Don't Do It!
5. 5. Loud Sigh: This is actually a word, but is a non-verbal statement often misunderstood by men. A loud sigh means she thinks you are an idiot and wonders why she is wasting her time standing here and arguing with you about nothing. (Refer back to # 3 for the meaning of nothing.)
6. 6. That's Okay: This is one of the most dangerous statements a women can make to a man. That's okay means she wants to think long and hard before deciding how and when you will pay for your mistake.
7. 7. Thanks: A woman is thanking you, do not question, or Faint. Just say you're welcome. (I want to add in a clause here - This is true, unless she says "Thanks a lot" - that is PURE sarcasm and she is not thanking you at all. DO NOT say "you're welcome" ... that will bring on a "whatever").
8. 8. Whatever: Is a women's way of saying ____ YOU!
9. 9. Don't worry about it, I got it: Another dangerous statement, meaning this is something that a woman has told a man to do several times, but is now doing it herself. This will later result in a man asking "What's wrong?" For the woman's response refer to # 3.

15 PIECES OF ADVICE FOR WOMEN

1. Don't imagine you can change a man - unless he's in nappies.

2. What do you do if your boyfriend walks out? You shut the door.

3. If they put a man on the moon - they should be able to put them all up there.

4. Never let your man's mind wander - it's too little to be out alone.

5. Go for the younger man. You might as well, they never mature anyway.

6. Men are all the same - they just have different faces, so that you can tell them apart.

7. Definition of a bachelor: a man who has missed the opportunity to make some woman miserable.

8. Women don't make fools of men - most of them are the do-it-yourself types.

9. Best way to get a man to do something is to suggest he is too old for it.

10. Love is blind, but marriage is a real eye-opener.

11. If you want a committed man, look in a mental hospital.

12. The children of Israel wandered around the desert for 40 years. Even in Biblical times, men wouldn't ask for directions.

13. If he asks what sort of books you're interested in, tell him cheque books .

14. Remember a sense of humour does not mean that you tell him jokes, it means that you laugh at his.

15. Sadly, all men are created equal!

Brilliant Ways Girls Turn Guys Down

Found this in my Gmail inbox . . . made me smile while reading.

HE: I'm a photographer I've been looking for a face like yours!
SHE: I'm a plastic surgeon. I've been looking for a face like yours!!

HE: May I have the pleasure of this dance?
SHE: No, I'd like to have some pleasure too!!!

HE: How did you get to be so beautiful?
SHE: I must have been given your share!!!

HE: Will you come out with me this Saturday?
SHE: Sorry! I'm having a headache this weekend!!!

HE: Go on, don't be shy. Ask me out!
SHE: Okay, get out!

HE: I think I could make you very happy
SHE: Why? Are you leaving?

HE: What would you say if I asked u to marry me?
SHE: Nothing. I can't talk and laugh at the same time!

HE: Can I have your name?
SHE: Why, don't you already have one?

HE: Shall we go and see a film?
SHE: I've already seen it!

HE: Do you think it was fate that brought us together?
SHE: Nah, it was plain bad luck!!!

HE: Where have you been all my life?
SHE: Hiding from you.

HE: Haven't I seen you someplace before?
SHE: Yes, that's why I don't go there anymore.

HE: Is this seat empty?
SHE: Yes, and this one will be if you sit down .

HE: So, what do you do for a living?
SHE: I'm a female impersonator.

HE: Hey baby, what's your sign?
SHE: Do not enter.

10 Types of Suitors

1. Mr. Gwapings
>> mayaman, gwapo, kilala, at higit sa lahat may wheels. mataas ang confidence nya na hindi sya mababasted, kaya pag nabasted..maapektuhan ng husto ang kanyang EGO. at teyk note, malas mo kung may sour grape attitude pa yan. pwede nyang sabihing "sus kala mo kung sinong maganda e pinagtyatyagaan ko lang naman sya! pwe!"

2. Mr. Quickie
>> ang type ng manliligaw na kada magkikita kayo e wala nang alam na sabihin kundi "kelan mo ba ako sasagutin?" o kaya "i love you na, ako ba hindi mo pa lab?" kahit na isang linggo pa lang naman syang pumoporma. kumbaga dinadaan nya sa pangungulit para mabilis ang pagsagot mo.

3. Mr. Everything
>> linya nya ang "sagutin mo lang ako, ibibigay ko sayo lahat, lahat ng magustuhan mo. kahit ang pa buwan o kaya mundo."! Tanga ka na pag nagpauto ka. dahil pag sinagot mo na yan, makakalimutan na nya ang linyang yan.

4. Mr. Stalker
>> eto yung type ng manliligaw na pag nagkahiwalay kayo e sisimulan ka sa tanong na "kumain ka na ba?" pagkasagot mo susundan pa nya ulit ng tanong "nasan ka ngayon?" "sinong kasama mo?" "anong ginagawa mo?" at kung anu-ano pa. basta tungkol sa daily activities mo kelangan malaman nya.

5. Mr. Take it or leave it
>> pag binasted mo ang ganitong type ng manliligaw, asahan mo bukas may nililigawan na sya ulit. at heto pa, hinding hindi ka na nya papansinin. period.

6. Mr. Salesman
>> dadaanin ka sa matatamis na salita. parang si Mr. Everything din kaya lang sya mas matindi mang-uto. yun bang tipong.."ang ganda ganda talaga ng mga mata mo.." o kaya "ang kinis kinis mo...flawless" o kaya "ang lambot ng mga kamay mo" at iba pang pang-uuto mapasagot ka lang.

7. Mr. Good Dog
>> eto ang nakakatuwang manliligaw. kase payag syang magpaalipin. taga bitbit ng bag mo o kahit ng mga kaibigan mo. kahit magmuka syang buntot sa tuwing may gala kayo ng mga barkada mo. nagpapakitang gilas kung baga. pero pag sinagot mo na, for sure gaganti yan.

8. Mr. Anonymous
>> motto nya ang "action speaks louder than voice". wala kang kaalam-alam, nanliligaw na pala. kaya pala ang bait-bait sayo. e akala mo mabait lang talaga.

9. Mr. Second chance
>> sya ang pinakamasugid mong manliligaw. kahit 100 tayms mong sabihing ayaw mo sa kanya at wala na syang pag-asa ang sasabihin nya pa rin, "Please give me a second chance"

10. Mr. Romantiko
>> jologs ang mga paraan nya sa panliligaw. manghaharana, pakikisamahan mga barkada mo, liligawan parents mo at laging may dalang flowers and chocolates tuwing dadalaw. pero madalas nakakapagpakilig sya ng nililigawan nya dahil sa kanyang "malinis na hangarin".

Men Most Common Sexual Turn-Off In Women

nagka-tsikahan kami kanina ng isang long-lost college girl friend ko sa YM. nalungkot ako kasi di pala sila nagkatuluyan ng bf nya for 8 years. haysss... akala ko pa naman eh sila na talaga magkakatuluyan kasi they look so perfect couple talaga.

nways, dami nga naman nilang issues sa isa't isa ang hindi ma-resolve kaya minabuti nilang maghiwalay na lang. related sa topic ko ngayon ang isa sa naging cause ng break-up nila.

1. Women should not behave as if they hate sex.
- sex is one way that a man may express his feelings and their vulnerability to the women they love. kaya hate ng mga lalaki ang pakiramdam na parang pinagbibigyan lang sila ng pabor kaya nakikipagtalik ang girl sa kanila.

girls, tama na yung arte o iwasan na yung drama o chuva na kesyo di ka naman pokpok para ganunin ka. ayaw ng mga lalaki yung pakiramdam na parang nanggagamit lang sila. eh di naman sila hayup noh? nakakawala nga naman yun ng dignidad at pride para sa kanila. sino ba naman ang di mapapahiya pag may mga side comments ka pa o kaya resistance habang nakikipagtalik sa kanila. siempre frustrating yun. pag ganun ang arte at ugali mo sa dyowa mo pagdating sa sex... ikaw din, walang sisihan pag naghanap sila ng iba.

2. women who never initiates sex.
- hindi manghuhula ang mga lalaki o mind-reader. kaya pag nag iinit ka at type mo makipag make-love sa partner mo then GO sister! at wag mag alinlangan! maniwala ka, gusto rin ng mga lalaki yung paminsan-minsan inuunahan sila sa pangangalabit o kaya nilalambutsing.
kung gusto mo ipaalam sa dyowa mo na accepted mo sya then wag ka na magpakipot. ora mismo, dambahin mo o kaya isalya mo sya sa kama. nyahahaha! (sampalin mo pag pumalag! joke!!!!)

3. women who are unresponsive in bed.
- josko! eh sino ba gusto makipag sex sa taong masahol pa sa malamig na cadaver? Love is a two-way street. its important that u do your share so as in a passionate love, romance, lovemaking or whatever you may call it to keep the flames of passion come alive. eh kung dedma lang reaction mo sa sexual activity nyo eh mas mabuti pang umahon ka na lang jan sa kama nyo at mag cross-stitching ka na lang for the rest of your life.

4. women who talk too much during sex.
- some men are turned on if women talk dirty during sex. pero kung nagsasalita ka na tipong tsini-tsismis mo yung kasalukuyang hiwalayan nina ruffa at yilmaz bektas habang nakasampa sa yo ang partner mo, aba eh nakakawalang-gana nga naman yun sa lalaki.

5. women who don't care about their looks
- oo na, beauty is in the eye of the beholder. pero ang tinutukoy dito ay kung panu mo iprisinta ang iyong katawan sa dyowa mo. kelangan maging neat and clean ka in all ways. ibig sabihin nyan eh maghugas ka ng fekfek mo. nyahahhaa! standard rule na yan at itinuro na yan sa atin ng mga magulang natin mula pa pagkabata. kung wala kang pakialam sa sarili mo eh ibig sabihin nyan ay di mo nga mahal ang sarili mo.

6. women who are over concerned with their looks.
- kabaliktaran naman to ng number 5. girls, ayaw ng mga men yung babaeng obsess masyado sa itsura nila. baka naman pati sa lovemaking nyo ng partner mo eh kontodo alahas ka pa sa katawan. alisin na ang mga garnishing na yan sa body at baka mamaya eh matigok pa yung partner mo dahil nalunok na pala yung pendant ng kwintas mo. nyahaha!

for guys, girl's natural beauty is better. baka naman kasi naka make-up ka pa. buti sana kung may flavor yung foundation make-up mo sa face habang hinihimud ka ng partner mo. hahaha! mga lovescenes sa pelikula lang po maganda tingnan na yung girl eh naka-make up.

7. women who have no sense of humor.
- men are so hard on themselves, feeling pressured to always do the right and to be responsible. therefore, men need a little laughter to lighten up themselves. mga sisters, kelangan meron ka neto para pampagaan o pampawala baga ng tension sa mga dinadala ng mga kalalakihan natin sa araw-araw.

8. superficial women.
- women with superficial values turn their men off. eto yung mga klase ng mga kababaihan na may kababawan, wala ibang inaatupag kundi ang sarili at wala ng pakialaman sa mga nangyayari sa kapaligiran. di mo naman kelangan maging intellectual o may mataas na edukasyon. pero hindi rin nila kelangan ang mga babaeng makasarili, self-absorbed o superficial.

9. women who are proud and boastful.
- this is an opposite of the above. eventhough men are proud of smart women, ayaw naman nila nung too smart women. they hate women who are boastful in just about everything... mapa-career man o sa looks nila. dehins type ng mga hombre na inferior sila noh.

10. women who talk about past lovers.
- comparing your current boylet to your past lovers is a big no-no! men doesn't want to hear anything about your past or which men you've been before. mas lalong wala syang pakialam kung mas malaki etits ng ex-bf mo!!! wahihi!

11. women who wear dirty, old, and ugly underwear.
- kapatid, itapon mo na yang mga funties mong nauso pa nung panahon ng lola mo. wag na wag magsusuot ng mga long-sleeved funties...yun bang halos abot hanggang dibdib sa laki pag isinuot mo. eto ha, makinig ka. wala pa akong nakilalang mister na umangal sa mga misis na mahilig o maluho sa pagbili ng sexy undies and lingeries. eh kasi para din naman sa kanila yun noh... para maging appealing. aktwali, di naman kelangan maging mamahalin ang undies mo...basta ba maganda at malinis eh ayos na yun.

12. women who aren't sexually spontaneous.
- men want spontaneous sex, that one which is not planned. the biggest complain most men say about their sex life are when their mates always make a big deal each time they make love. nakaka turn off daw yung maraming excuses. di naman kasi lahat ng panahon eh may energy ang mga lalaki for a major seduction. kumbaga dapat ready beauty mo sa mga quickies at dapat bukas isipan mo sa mga hindi inaasahang sumpong ng pagkalibog ng dyowa mo. basta ba wag nyo lang gawin sa gitna ng daan kasi....baka magka trapik. lols.