Social Influence

Thumb-nail sketch of the influence the media has...and you and your friends have on consumptive decisions

Relationships ... Gotta have them!?

We are busier than ever -- and time has become a dwindling commodity ... do relationships suffer, or do we pack more relationship equity into the time we have. What if that "equity" becomes worthless?

Chocolate Drops

"Man cannot live on chocolate alone; but woman sure can."

Intellectual Orgasm & The Essence of a Woman

I love being a woman . Thank you Mr. Sillada for giving me more reasons to celebrate womanhood.

DANNY SILLADA's Intellectual Orgasm & The Essence Of A Woman

How many men have failed to understand a woman – her needs and wants – not in the context of emotional and sexual fulfillments, but on the level of intellectual stimulation that a woman of passion and reason craves and desires?

Generally, a woman can be attracted to a man because of his looks and physical appearance. However, the moment he speaks, he will either arouse her curiosity or bore her to death.

She may intermittently yawn or twirl her hair with her finger as a sign of discontent in front of a boring and insensitive person. But when a woman’s blood rushes toward her cheeks and her eyes glow with indescribable radiance – it is an obvious sign that she is at the peak of her intellectual and emotional experience.

So what does really a woman need and desire in a man, and what brings her to the fullest experience of her femininity as a woman?

A good lover does not necessarily need an Adonis' physique or material possessions to impress a woman – but wit, passion and humor – a rational mind and a sensitive heart to stimulate the recesses of her soul.

To affirm a woman's existence is not only to assuage her sensual and emotional needs and longings, but also to stimulate the intellectual resonance of her body and soul. Some women call it Intellectual Orgasm while others call it Intellectual Stimulation.

Intellectual Orgasm is to bring the woman to the heights of her femininity of being loved and adored with passion and reason enduring the passing of time and season. A man’s love to a woman must be rational; he must see through a woman’s soul her beauty, value and meaning in relation to his quest in life.

A woman is not a functional object to be used when a man needs to release his lust and passion, and put her aside when she is no longer attractive or exploitable. Every woman deserves respect whether she is a prostitute, a mentally challenged or a factory worker.

A rational man must see and recognize her precious role in conceiving and delivering humanity into the world. Because, every woman, regardless of class and status in the society, is the man’s identity of who he was, who he is and who he will be. Man exists because of a woman and she becomes a woman because of him.

Being borne out of a woman, a man could only respond to that “gift of life” by treating every woman with respect and compassion. He has to make her feel as though she is as indispensable as the air that he breathe or as the light that beckons in his solitude, because she is the completion of what he was and what he is to become. For every man, there is always a woman who laughs or cries with him in times of joy and sorrow.

The essence of a woman transcends beyond space and time and, like a seasoned wine, the older she gets the more she defines and completes the epitome of being a woman. The more she advances in her age the more she possesses an aura of beauty and elegance beyond the physical realms. She becomes the symbol of love, passion and beauty that a man must constantly esteem and desire as a lover and as a man of reason.

As a man of passion and reason, on the other hand, he must rise above the physical appearance and see through her soul the quintessential beauty of a woman. It is an eye, for instance, of seeing the beauty of a woman working in the farm with sun-baked skin, or a destitute woman carrying her child along the busy street, or a native woman planting rice in the mountain.

A rational and compassionate man adores a woman like a goddess, as ineffable and desirable as a princess by showing not only his words, but also his actions like how he talks and listens with ardor and compassion.

As a woman, like any man, she has her own conquest too and her conquest is to be constantly desired and adored rather than taken for granted like a used object when youth and physical beauty wilt away.

To sum, every woman is equal to a man; what he desires is what she equally desire in her own way as a woman, and she desires nothing but to love and to be loved by the man that she trusted and gave her entire life and existence.

Your Family's First Ride

One money expert said that if you are planning to buy your first family car, the best time to acquire is before you are even expecting your first child. He said that in this way, you could concentrate on your car financing without worrying about hospital bills and tuition.

Also, buying a car directly from a dealer is the fastest way to get your new set of wheels. Though remember most of their “in-house financing” still have the high interest rates. Plus, their sales talk often includes offering you add-ons like tint, and a roof-rack- all of which you probably don’t need.

Websites like TheAutoFinder.com might be able to get you a better deal through their auto loan. They process loan applications even to customers with previous record of bankruptcy and repos. They also have feature like free auto loan calculator that compute your monthly amortizations, depending on how much you put as down payment and how long you are willing to pay for your new set of wheels. Remember that the longer it takes you to complete your amortizations, the more you spend in the end.

See, buying your first family car is not as easy as shopping for clothes during season-ender sale. However, investing enough research and time yields the best choice for you family and the best value for your money.

The Flaw In Women

By the time the Lord made woman, he had been working six days straight. He was very tired. An angel appeared before Him and said, "Lord, why are you spending so much time on this one?"

The Lord answered, "Have you seen the spec sheet on her? She has to be water-proof, but not plastic or hard. She must have over 200 movable parts, all replaceable and be able to run on diet Coke and leftovers. She must have a lap that can hold at least four children at a time, a kiss that can cure anything from a scraped knee to a broken heart and, she must be able to talk on the telephone, cook, scold a child and pet the dog all at the same time with only two hands."

The angel was astounded. "No way! Only two hands!" "Yes." The Lord said. "And that's just the standard model."

"Lord, that is too much work for you. Wait until tomorrow. You can finish up then."

"No!" The Lord protested. "I am too close to finishing this creation that is so close to my heart. She can already heal herself and work 18 hours a day. I'm just about done."

The angel moved in for a closer look and touched the woman. "Lord, you've made her so soft."

"Yes, she is soft," the Lord agreed. "But she is also tough! You have no idea what she can do, endure or accomplish."

"Will she be able to think too?" the angel asked.

The Lord replied, "Not only will she be able to think, she will be able to pray, reason, mediate, negotiate and meditate."

The angel noticed something and reach out to touch the woman's cheek. "Oops! You've put so much in her, she starting to leak Lord. I told you you were putting too much in this one."

"That's not a leak. That's a tear."

"What's that for?" The angel inquired. The Lord whispered, "Her tears are the way she will express her joy, her sorrow, her pain, her disappointment, her love, her loneliness, her grief and her pride. It is a symbol of her heart."

The angel was impressed. "You are a genius Lord. You've thought of everything. This woman you are making is truly amazing is she not?"

With all the pride of a brand new father the Lord said, "Oh yes she is! Women have strengths that will amaze men. They bear hardships and carry burdens, but the will, at the same time hold happiness, love and joy.

They will smile when they want to scream. Sing when they want to cry. They cry when they are happy and laugh when they are nervous. They fight for those they love and all that they believe in. They stand up for injustice and remain seated in humility. They will not take no for an answer when they know there is a better way. They will go without so that their family, particularly the children can have what they need. They will go to the doctor with a frightened friend.

They will go to court with a wayward husband. They love unconditionally often, asking for and taking little in return. They cry when their children excel and cheer when their friends are rewarded. They are happy to hear about a birth, knowing the difficulties that may lie ahead. They cheer because they will help a friend through it all.

They love weddings and might even help make the dress. The can cook some can even bake. Their hearts break when someone dies yet, they are strong when others may think there is no strength left. They know that a hug and a kiss can heal a broken heart and, they will offer them to anyone who needs one. They come in all sizes, shapes and colors. They can walk, run, fly, drive or e-mail to remind you that they love you. It is the heart of a woman that will keep the world turning and things in order.

They have the babies because men could never figure out how to put so much in such a small space. Women bring hope and joy. They birth compassion and ideals. They are the moral support that keeps the family of humanity together. Woman have important things to say and even more important things to do. They ask very little and offer all they have - - that's their one flaw.

"What flaw?" asked the angel. Sadly the Lord responded, "They seem to always forget their worth."

Men...Women...

Women's Complaints about Men
1. They are not understanding enough.
2. They are not sensitive to feelings and needs.
3. They are not affectionate enough.
4. They tend to bypass sexual foreplay, and are quick to ejaculate thus losing their sexual interest, before the woman is satisfied.
5. They do not communicate enough. They do not express their feelings and thoughts.
6. They do not pay enough attention to their partners.
8. They do not help with order and cleanliness of the home.
9. They do not appreciate the work involved in keeping up the home or in bearing and bringing up children and do not compensate this contribution to family life.
10. They make decisions about work and life without regarding the woman's or the family's needs.
11. They create extramarital relationships.

Men's Complaints about Women
In the same groups I have found that men have the following complaints about women.
1. Women complain, criticize and nag too much.
2. They try to control and suppress men.
3. They are seldom happy.
4. They tend to withhold sex as a punishment or blackmail.
5. They do not think logically, but emotionally.
6. Their emotions are not predictable but change quickly especially due to hormones, during menstruation, pregnancy or menopause.
7. They tend to gossip.
8. They, too, create extramarital relationships.
9. They are not home enough (which for some men means - continuously)
10. They are not taking enough care of the home.

What Men Can Do to Help Their Relationship Partner's Feel Happier
Men can learn to:
1. Be more understanding and sensitive of her needs.
2. Be more affectionate, tender, affirming and loving.
3. Approach her consciously and sensuously allowing their mutual sexual energy to gradually develop.
4. To communicate more openly their thoughts, feelings and needs.
5. Spend more quality time with their children.
6. Help out with the cleanliness and order of the home.
7. Appreciate, and where necessary, financially reward their partners for work done in the home.
8. Include all the family in decision making.
9. Be monogamous.
10. Understand that her criticism is often a function of the fact that her needs are not being fulfilled.
11. Overcome the fear of being controlled and be true to themselves in each situation.
12. Understand that women perceive situations differently and respect that.
13. Understand that women are often the victims of their hormonal changes and that this is not easy.
14. Understand that women, too, need to get out of the house and engage in activities, which interest them.

What Women Can Do to Help Their Relationship Partner's Feel Happier
Women can learn to:
1. Express their needs directly without complaining or nagging.
2. Trust their partner and allow him to function freely.
3. Focus on how grateful they are to have what they have.
4. Analyze situations from an even more logical point of view, especially when they suspect hormones are affecting them. (Or avoid reacting at those times.)
5. Avoid gossiping.
6. Be monogamous.
7. Find a balance between taking care of the home and asking the others for help.
8. Feel equal - neither superior nor inferior to men.
9. Understand that men have difficulty with communicating feelings and not take this personally.
10. Realize that their partner loves them even when he cannot be affectionate or tender.
11. Guide the man with their preferences in their sexual contact.
12. Radiate feelings of equality and self-confidence without competitiveness.

All I Have Is Rain

. . . this heart I've found
I didn't intend to break
Cause I've seen the world from down there
And it wasn't a pretty sight. . .

. . . I wanna be a firewoman
I'll water down your desire
Cause I know this love is a killer
I wanna put out your fire. . .

- Firewoman by Barbi Almabis

Babae Talaga

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Heartbreak

Survey Says

Pics -- Capture the Moment and the Soul
Once we went digital, the world of photography opened up to us -- the masses

ATTENTION ALL MEN

Do women call you Fatty? Do women call you Baldy? Do women call you Ugly? Do you have bad breath? Do women call you Shortie? Do your ears have more hair than your head? Do women call you Stupid? Do women call you Loser? Are you over 30, 40, 50, 60, or even 80? Worst of all, have the women completely lost interest in you? Do not despair. Now there is a new "Male Beauty Product" on the market that will change all of that!

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Lafftrip

Reporters interviewing a 104-year-old woman:
"And what do you think is the best thing about being 104?" the reporter asked.
She simply replied, ''No peer pressure.''

*******

I've sure gotten old!
I've had two bypass surgeries, a hip replacement,
new knees, fought prostate cancer and diabetes
I'm half blind,
can't hear anything quieter than a jet engine,
take 40 different medications that
make me dizzy, winded, and subject to blackouts.
Have bouts with dementia.
Have poor circulation;
hardly feel my hands and feet anymore.
Can't remember if I'm 85 or 92.
Have lost all my friends. But, thank God,
I still have my driver's license.

*******

An elderly woman decided to prepare her will and told her preacher she had two final requests.
First, she wanted to be cremated, and second, she wanted her ashes scattered over Wal-Mart.
'Wal-Mart?' the preacher exclaimed. 'Why Wal-Mart?' 'Then I'll be sure my daughters visit me twice a week'


*******

I feel like my body has gotten totally out of shape,
so I got my doctor's permission to
join a fitness club and start exercising.
I decided to take an aerobics class for seniors.
I bent, twisted, gyrated, jumped up and down, and perspired for an hour.
But, by the time I got my leotards on,
the class was over.

Run, Walk, Show ... How Do You Use Running Shoes?

Athletic shoe, sporting apparel, casual footwear, trainers, sandshoes, running shoes, runners, sneakers, gym shoes, tennis shoes, tennies, sport shoes, sneaks, takkies ... doesn't matter what you call them, they just aren't dress shoes -- or are they?

Be Wise and Smart

Choosing a self-employed health insurance plan is an extremely important decision. One has to be wise and smart in acquiring a plan and must see to it that the most needed benefits are not compromised. Save money in getting self-employed health insurance. Of course nothing beats that the best way to save — is to stay healthy. That is because your health will affect the rates of your policy. And one of the ways that you can stay healthy is to stop smoking or don’t smoke. That is one of the easiest ways to qualify for reasonable premiums. Second, if you are considering acquiring a self-employed health insurance, you should consider picking a plan with a higher deductible. Higher deductibles mean lower premiums, in this way you are able to afford the medical benefits that you need.

How to Find a Good Home Equity Loan Lender

Many consumers and home mortgage rate shoppers are confused as how to find a good lender for a home equity loan or to refinance their home loan. One key factor to succeed in finding a trustworthy, fair lender providing a good home loan deal at a great rate is to look no further than where you send your mortgage payments.

1. Make sure your current lender has quick access to all your paper work. Therefore processing your loans will likely take less time.
2. Another thing to keep in mind is the fact that many loan offers from other lenders require refinancing your home. That means that your current mortgage will become obsolete. All the years you've invested in paying off the loan will be scratched. You will be in starting over with a new mortgage held by a new company.
3. A home equity loan merely adds an obligation to the mortgage. You don't have to pay closing costs for a home equity loan. You don't have to pay private mortgage insurance as well.
4. Keep this in mind when asked to consider a 125% loan.
5. For refinancing loans and other various kinds of loan programs through their network of lenders, click http://www.loannetwork.com/loans.html.

Live Life With Wine

In one food magazine that I’ve read, one writer said that wines are a lot like roses. Some people like red roses, and some people like pink roses. And just like roses, in wine all you have to do is to figure out the one that you like, although that takes time.

Basically, there are two types of wine. The white wine which is the outcome of fermented grape juice (that is, no skins or meat of the fruit), and the red wine which is the outcome of crushed, fermented grapes. I believe that while we increase our knowledge about wine, consequently it will also heighten our enjoyment. Thus, the best way to improve our sense of preferences is to try different wines.

Lastly, if there’s one thing that I have noted about wine is that we people should not be intimidated with it. See, when we celebrate something, we usually have wine or some other beverage to toast and more often than not we have food also that goes with it. I think that is what wine is all about—live our life, have fun, and enjoy it.

Your Dreams

Do you understand your dreams?

9 WORDS WOMEN USE

1. 1. Fine: This is the word women use to end an argument when they are right and you need to shut up.
2. 2. Five Minutes: If she is getting dressed, this means a half an hour. Five minutes is only five minutes if you have just been given five more minutes to watch the game before helping around the house.
3. 3. Nothing: This is the calm before the storm. This means something, and you should be on your toes. Arguments that begin with nothing usually end in fine.
4. 4. Go Ahead: This is a dare, not permission. Don't Do It!
5. 5. Loud Sigh: This is actually a word, but is a non-verbal statement often misunderstood by men. A loud sigh means she thinks you are an idiot and wonders why she is wasting her time standing here and arguing with you about nothing. (Refer back to # 3 for the meaning of nothing.)
6. 6. That's Okay: This is one of the most dangerous statements a women can make to a man. That's okay means she wants to think long and hard before deciding how and when you will pay for your mistake.
7. 7. Thanks: A woman is thanking you, do not question, or Faint. Just say you're welcome. (I want to add in a clause here - This is true, unless she says "Thanks a lot" - that is PURE sarcasm and she is not thanking you at all. DO NOT say "you're welcome" ... that will bring on a "whatever").
8. 8. Whatever: Is a women's way of saying ____ YOU!
9. 9. Don't worry about it, I got it: Another dangerous statement, meaning this is something that a woman has told a man to do several times, but is now doing it herself. This will later result in a man asking "What's wrong?" For the woman's response refer to # 3.

Women Player

As technology progresses, women and homemakers are finding more of their time on the computer. They shop online, read magazines online, talk to friends online, and even play games online. Playing in online casinos are fast becoming popular not only to men but to women as well.

However, why is it becoming more appealing for women to play at home rather than going out to play blackjack in a room full of cigarette smokes?

Certainly, one reason is that playing at the computer at home is preferred because women will have a certain sense of privacy. Secondly, the online casino is open 24 hours a day and 7 days a week. Women can suit their gambling pleasure without ever having to leave the house. Lastly, they have to worry no more about being hit on or harassed by male gamblers nor be judged negatively.

Therefore women out there, if you need to unwind a bit but you are not in the mood to wander far, why not play at online casino right their in your computer?